Learning To Pick My Battles: A Journey To Peace

I had an encounter on the escalator that tested my patience. A woman was taking her sweet time and blocking the space, and I expressed my frustration out loud. To my surprise, she hurled insults back at me, and I responded. Normally, such situations would have ruined my day, but this time I didn’t let it.

What I’ve learned is that maturity isn’t about never feeling frustrated—it’s about choosing how to handle those emotions. Proverbs 16:32 says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, those with self-control than those who take a city.” Sometimes, it’s okay to stand up for yourself, especially when someone crosses a line. In this case, she insulted my mother, and I had to respond.

But here’s the real lesson: I’ve learned to pick my battles. I now know when to engage and when to let things slide. Responding to that woman didn’t drain me like it would have before. Instead, I realized I’ve grown—I’m learning how not to take things personally, and I’m more patient with myself and others.

James 1:19 reminds us, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” The more we learn to control our reactions, the more we build character. It’s not always easy, but every day is an opportunity to grow.

This shift has affected my work and personal life. I’ve become less tolerant of unnecessary drama but more patient with what truly matters. As we get older, we start to value our peace more, and I’m embracing that. “Character is not built in the easy moments, but in the challenges we face.”

It’s not always easy, but each day is a new opportunity to protect our energy and focus on what really deserves our time.

How’s your day going?